We Are Doers, Not Whiners

Looks like there again are talks beginning of a protest at the Ohio Statehouse and various other statehouses across the country; closed statehouses as that as the day picked is when the legislators have already begun there summer vacations.

As I did before, I will do again and ask some basic questions of these whiners that are clueless on law in their states and claim that fathers have no rights.

These poor choices in words are what stand in the way of getting good bills passed.

I want you to answer some basic questions:

1. If your child is fatherless, when did you die?

2. If your child is fatherless, why were your parental rights terminated? What crime of abuse were you found guilty of?

3. Please show me the exact language that says that a father has no rights in Ohio? For that matter in any state.

4. Why are you going to a “closed” Statehouse? Add to that explain why you are wasting a day off work to do it.

5. Can you explain the exact language within the law in your state that is flawed?

6. Can you present the solution to the language to the problems within the law in your state?

Pass the word; if anyone decides that they want to participate in this, we will have a crew of reporters there that will be asking the same questions and Ohio will not be the only state as several others have agreed to join. That video will then be released to show who is working against equal parenting.

While you are making yourself look like the disgruntled dad or mother where the Courts got it right in their decision I will be miles away in meetings to get the law changed. This is the number two argument against changes to the law, following closely behind parents want this to get out of paying child support.

Many disregard the history of what these rallies and protests have done over the years. I suggest that you learn the history of what these protests and rallies have done before you criticize me for not supporting them. The last protest when Don Tenn and Paul Fischer climbed the crane in Ohio cost us over $1 million in free lobbying. These protests do nothing but send the message that the courts got it right.

Raise awareness of a well known 20 years old problem? That is like talking about a flat tire and expecting it to fix itself.

Your failure to understand this and to check history shows and the three largest parental rights rallies ever held in this country were ones that I helped put together. In 10 days we put 200 people on Statehouse grounds in Ohio. That's more than the so-called fathers’ rights movement had at 50+ locations last year.

The second put 500 on the Ohio Statehouse grounds. The third was in DC and put 3000+ on the mall. At that rally someone (they are the ones telling the fathers rights movement to protest) decided to protest by climbing the Lincoln Memorial and almost got the entire thing shut down and all of the real leadership in this movement arrested.

I am not risking another parenting bill on a bunch of whiners and their false message and claims the fathers have no rights. If you think fathers have no rights you show me the language in any state law, and I do mean any state, where it says that fathers have no rights.

I am not going to tolerate the whining like little girls of the fathers’ rights movement. They have been repeatedly challenged to an open debate and have run away. They are not man enough to stand up and approach this problem in the proper manner. Want to whine about how bad it got in your divorce; go grab a beer at your local pub because you likely screwed yourself by not knowing the law. Best thing they can do is stay out of the Statehouses because if you can't present the solution or describe the exact language that is the problem then you are the problem not the solution.

I meet with legislators on and off statehouse grounds all the time in formal and informal settings. There is a lot more discussed than just changes to the custody law which is how I have gotten multiple changes done to family law (about 25) and stopped 4 child support increase bills in Ohio.

My favorite quote so far from one of them is “the fathers’ rights movement is nothing but a bunch of whiners.”

You Think I am like the judges that tell you what to do, WRONG! Working with them for their input on changes has gained many of them as supporters of the changes. Same goes for lawyers.

So you can check YOUR ego at the door and get to work and learn how this is done right and it sure as hell is not with t-shirts and signs worn by the unknowing and the non-working.

Stop your whining and get to work talking to legislators properly or get out of the way of those that have moved well beyond this childish behavior and are acting like adults. If you don’t know the problems in the language or what the solution is, get out of the way of those that do. T-shirts and signs have cost the efforts before and this is the type of false message that will do it again. We are very close to getting the solution introduced and this is the BS that will kill it.